A racist woman is not a feminist; she doesn’t care about helping women, just the women who look like her and can buy the same things she can. A transphobic woman is not a feminist; she is overly concerned with policing the bodies and expressions of others. A woman against reproductive rights — to use bell hook’s own example, and an issue close to your heart — is not a feminist; she prioritizes her dogma or her disgust over the bodies of others. An ableist woman is not a feminist; she holds some Platonic ideal of what a physically or mentally “whole” person should be and tries to force the world to fit inside it.
It’s frustrating to argue with people and realize that what you’re really arguing with is their inability to see men as worthy of compassion. If they just had that switch turned on in their brains, they would get it.Nothing that I talk about has anything to do with wanting women back in the kitchen, wanting to remove their legal rights, or hating on them at all, in fact I believe foisting victim-consciousness on women is toxic–and yet I, and other advocates like me, constantly get hit with the misogyny stick.
To be honest, after reading yet another story of a father who lost custody to a documented abuser, or a father who has physical custody in fact but still pays child support to a mother who kicked her children out of her house… or just dealing with the fact that I live in a society in which abused men are perfectly acceptable (‘what did he do to deserve it’), raped men hilarious (‘huk huk huk u misspelled awesome!’), parts of infant boys penises are routinely cut off (and don’t get me started on the men who find out that part of their penis was cut off and are not just okay with that but want to do it to their sons), slaps the kind of misandric material in mainstream newspapers, tv and movies that’s worse then the worst misogyny pinned on MRAs… and yet it’s this very misogyny that’s used as an excuse to shut up MRA discourse…
Sometimes I can understand why people cling to flimsy rationales for why we don’t need to feel compassion for men. Because when that switch is turned on in your brain, holy crap does it hurt. It hurts to see men abused and raped and then ignored as victims, it hurts to see men stripped of their children and then blamed for being absent, it hurts to see men committing suicide at four times the rate of women but that’s irrelevant because women attempt it more often*, it hurts to see men killed in targeted gendercides then accused of being privileged, and, most of all, it hurts to hear people say that men deserve their misery for being men.
The law in the UK does not recognise female-on-male or female-on-female rape.
The Sexual Offences Act 2003 defines rape in its first section, which reads:
“(1)A person (A) commits an offence if - (a)he intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person (B) with his penis, (b)B does not consent to the penetration, and (c)A does not reasonably believe that B consents.”
This means that, under the current law, only men can commit rape. This ignores cases of female perpetrated rape or rape committed with objects.
This definition of rape is outdated and gender biased. It not only prevents victims of sexual offenses from receiving true justice but also deters many victims from reporting crimes as they are made to feel like their experience is not taken seriously.
This decade old legislation should be expanded so as to reflect our cherished ideals of equality, to fully acknowledge the devastating experiences suffered by this community of victims, both male and female, and give them the respect, recognition and justice they so desperately deserve.
Hey guys wanna hear a really funny joke
Trying to outlaw Male Genital Mutilation? Hilarious.
Trying to raise awareness of how men are victims of IPV? Hilarious.
Trying to change rape laws so that 80% of male victims have their rape recognised as such in law? Hilarious.
Trying to increase funding for shelter’s and support systems for Male victims? Hilarious.
Trying to find out why men are three times more likely to kill themselves than women? Hilarious.
Trying to change the fact that boys are lagging behind in academia, in terms of literacy level due to faulty teaching methods? Hilarious.
Wow, you’re right this is “funny shit”
Whether you mean to or not, when you sit there and oh-so-hilariously deride activism that specifically targets men and boys, this is what you are mocking, and that behavior is despicable.
Male circumcision has escaped legal scrutiny in Anglo-American law simply because the child lacks an effective champion. American law is awaiting a chance to defend male children from unnecessary genital cutting — as it has already protected females. All varieties of nontherapeutic, unnecessary, religious, ritual or cosmetic genital cutting imposed on children, regardless of motive, are legally indistinguishable. Each poses inarguable physical injury and psychological harm for the child.
I’m just going to have a little rant about why this ‘flag’ annoys the hell out of me and in all honestly, I couldn’t care less if I get any more hate for being a ‘Heterosexual supporter’ or for having a ‘Heterosexual opinion’ because at the end of the day, I am not ashamed for being supportive and respectful of other peoples sexuality, and that includes Heterosexuality.
Along with the other flags showing other well-known sexual orientations as very happy and bouncy, this is the only flag that openly looks on a sexuality as negative. Considering all the fighting that the LGBT community has done to gain acceptance and get society to open up to sexuality as a whole, depicting an entire sexuality as being ‘boring’ or ‘plain’ is a really ignorant thing to do.
Nobody can deny, especially after seeing all of the bright colours and expressions on the other sexual orientations, it shows Heterosexuality as being boring and plain, and this is simply not the case.
No sexuality is boring because falling in love isn’t boring.
At the end of the day, not one of us can help who we are attracted to and who we fall for.
It’s really time to crush this whole idea that Heterosexuals are bigoted, ignorant, close-minded or even just judgmental because its sexuality and it isn’t one that they chose any more than someone who was gay did. Being Heterosexual doesn’t define what someone is like, how they chose to live there life does.
These stereotypes are pathetic and aren’t helping anyone; they aren’t helping out again credibility or acceptance of the LGBT community and they certainly aren’t helping anyone gain equality.
When feminists automatically dismiss MRAs arguments because they are male…
You really have no idea what MRAs fight for, do you?
I’m sorry, I guess I forgot feminists weren’t trying to fight against rape culture, rape and abuse support and media objectification… I suppose they dislike the idea of equal work and educational opportunities too, not to mention equal pay.
I mean, why else would you mock a movement into the ground unless you disagree with its aims and objects? Or are men not allowed to believe in equality anymore… or maybe, just maybe… you’re pissed that the MRA’s have proved that you don’t have to make a villain out of half the worlds population and believe in self-victimisation to fight for equality.
If being Homophobic is wrong then why is it okay to be Heterophobic?
For one moment lets pretend that Homophobia actually means ‘the hatred of…’ rather than ‘the fear of…’ like everyone on tumblr seems to think.
If it is so wrong and comdemned to be homophobic and homophobia isn’t tolerated on any grounds what so ever, the how can people freely express there heterophobia (yes, it does exist) without people so much as batting an eyelid.
People can’t choose there sexuality, therefore people did not choose to be straight, exactly the same as those who are gay. It isn’t a choice.
So why is it okay to hate an entire group of people just because they are straight?
Think about it for a moment. I mean actually think about it.
People are people regardless of sexuality… if you can’t learn to accept straight people for how they are, how can you expect them to accept you for how you are?
You don’t know what you’re talking about.
Nice heterocentrism there, yo.
So I’m reading about the Scottish Government’s Decision about Equal Marriage
In case you’re not aware, the Scottish Government has said it will be bringing forward legislation to allow equal marriage in Scotland, meaning of course that same sex couples will have the legal right to get married, and that in couples where one partner transitions, they would no longer have to get a divorce, then rejoin in a civil partnership.
It’s special because they aren’t only talking about civil marriage, they want the legislation to allow same sex religious and humanist marriages in Scotland if the religious or humanist institution will allow it. Basically it means, if you are in a same sex relationship, and are religious or humanist, you can have a religious or humanist ceremony in scotland to get married, as long as your sect approves of your relationship and marriage.
Reading the article I’m reading on it makes me so so happy, I can feel tears of joy i nmy eyes because this is huge to me. It means that when legislation is brought through, I can actually get married to Lee, not get civil partnershipped, and I can do it in my home country, one of the most beautiful places in the UK, I can cement my love for Lee and profess my commitment to him surrounded by the people I love in my home country, where I have always wanted to do this.
I can’t really express how happy it makes me that the Scottish Government is putting forth legislation to allow me to express my love and commitment in the same way as a heterosexual couple can.
Message I just sent to standingfast. I don’t even know why I bother at this point, the founder of the blog is SIXTEEN and so brainwashed I can’t even, but seeing as this is the kind of message I am almost 100% sure they’ll conveniently ignore, I might as well let the word spread.
Ps. Come at me bro for being snarky. I’ve been doing this for MONTHS and actually thought for a while that these people could be educated.
Oh holy shit, I just looked at their blog.
Electronic Arts (EA), maker of the highly popular Star Wars: The Old Republic video game - is the target of a boycott orchestrated by hateful anti-gay groups. Why? Because they had the courage to give players around the world the option of including a gay romance storyline in their interactive Star Wars game.
Right now, thousands of anti-gay letters are flooding Electronic Arts headquarters, threatening to push the company and its staff to the dark side (“Homos are ruining gaming!” wrote one boycotter. “I urge all parents to keep any EA games from their children to prevent them to be AIDS-spreading, Satan-loving scum,” wrote another).
But we can do something about it - if we channel the force for good. Companies like Electronic Arts need to be rewarded when they do the right thing. And together we can help them stand their ground. Sign this urgent letter to Electronic Arts (EA) now, asking them to stay strong and resist the dark side. When 50,000 of us sign on, All Out members will make news by dressing as Star Wars characters and delivering your letters directly to Electronic Arts headquarters:
I don’t usually post things like this, but if there was ever going to be an exception, it’d be a Star Wars themed one.